Most mums don’t struggle with sleep because their baby is broken.

They struggle because no one ever really explained what normal looks like.

So you sit there at night watching the clock.
Trying to figure out if this is just how it is… or if you’re missing something.

Feeding again.
Rocking again.
Second guessing everything.

And the hardest part isn’t even the waking.
It’s not knowing if you’re doing the right thing.

Because once you understand what’s actually happening, everything starts to feel a little less chaotic.

You stop jumping between advice.
You stop trying ten different things at once.
You start responding with a bit more calm and confidence.

You don’t need more noise.
You need a simple, gentle and proven plan to help you make sense of it all.

If that’s where you’re at, I’ve got something for you.

Comment WIDE AWAKE and I’ll send it through 🤍

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We haven’t had s*x in 6 months. And honestly… this part of motherhood isn’t talked about enough.

Not because something is wrong. Not because the love isn’t there.

But because everything feels different.

Physically…
I’m dry. Like Sahara desert dry.
And that’s actually really common, especially if you’re breastfeeding (hello hormones).

Using a good water-based lubricant can help take the pressure off your body while it’s still adjusting - but also, it’s okay if you’re just not ready yet.

My breasts leak because they’re functional right now, not sexual - and that shift can feel confusing.

And then there’s the part no one really prepares you for…

I’m touched out!

After a whole day of feeding, holding, soothing, being needed -
my body doesn’t crave more touch. It craves space.

And mentally? I have a million tabs open.
Thinking about feeds, sleep, the house, what needs to be done next…

Switching into intimacy can feel like trying to change channels without a remote.

So when I say
“I don’t feel s*xy right now”
or
“I’d rather just sleep”

It’s not rejection.

It’s exhaustion.
It’s overload.
It’s a nervous system that hasn’t had a second to breathe.

And this part is important:

It doesn’t mean I don’t love him.
It doesn’t mean I don’t want closeness.
And it doesn’t mean something is broken.

It means this is a season.

A season of healing.
Of adjusting.
Of learning a new version of ourselves - individually and together.

And intimacy?
It doesn’t have to mean s*x right now.

It can look like:
– sitting together
– a hug without expectation
– a check-in conversation
– feeling seen, not pressured

If this is you too…

You’re not broken.
You’re not failing your relationship.
And you don’t need to rush yourself out of this.

You’re allowed to take your time 🤍

If you want support navigating this season as a new mama - the mental load, the overwhelm, and everything underneath it…

Comment HELD and I’ll send you my gentle guide for FREE 🩷

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I didn’t write these to be bold…

I wrote them because I’ve seen too many mamas think they’re the problem.

Crying through feeds
Pushing through pain
Hiding formula like it means something about them.

Most advice isn’t wrong…
It’s just missing what actually matters.

No one explains what’s happening.
So you end up blaming yourself.

You’re not failing.
You were just never properly shown how…

Comment HUNGRY and I’ll send you the guide 🤍

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if your baby is waking overnight and you’re lying there thinking
“is this normal… or have I somehow messed this up?”

I’ve been there too.

That feeling where every wake feels like a sign you’re doing something wrong… where you start replaying everything… feeds, naps, routines trying to figure out what you should change

But most of the time, it’s not that you’ve done anything wrong at all it’s just that no one has properly explained what baby sleep actually looks like… or helped you understand when to ask for help.

So you’re left guessing in the dark.
Literally.

But it doesn’t have to be this way, mama!

When you understand what’s normal for your baby and what’s actually worth paying attention to, everything softens a bit.

You stop blaming yourself for things that are just part of this stage… and you start feeling a bit more steady in how you respond.

And most importantly, you know when it’s time to get support.

That’s why I put my sleep guide together. It’s something you can come back to in the middle of the night when your brain isn’t working and everything feels bigger than it is

Comment WIDE AWAKE and I’ll send one your way, on me!

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Perfect sleep is one of those things that sounds so convincing online… until you’re actually living it.

Because when your baby is waking, needing you, having unpredictable nights, it doesn’t feel like a “routine problem”… it just feels hard. And for a lot of mums, that quickly turns into questioning themselves.

Like maybe you’re doing something wrong.
Like maybe your baby should be different by now.

But most of the time, it’s not that anything is wrong. It’s that the expectation you’ve been given doesn’t match how babies actually work.

Sleep in the early months isn’t neat or fixed. It shifts, it develops, and it often asks more from you than anyone prepares you for.

What makes the biggest difference isn’t chasing perfect nights, it’s understanding what’s going on and having something to lean on when things feel messy.

You don’t need perfect sleep. You need a plan that works with your baby and still supports you on the harder nights too.

If you’re in that space right now and it all feels a bit unclear, comment WIDE AWAKE and I’ll send you my sleep guide. It’ll help you understand what’s normal and what to do next 💛

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